haha i wont tell him, i promise! i did see my dad about 6 days ago, and then i got a bad cold, so i stayed away until yesterday.. 6 days ago he looked great! yesterday he was swollen again.. ugh.. it does make sense about the lymphnodes and the fluid though.. we will have to ask the ENT tomorrow.. and i am sure that the ENT will once again tell us how big this surgery was and how things can go wrong.. hopefully just by the ENT looking at him, he will say if this is normal or not..