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Joined: May 2010 Posts: 638 | My goodness. I am in a normal relationship! Substitute the word Alex for husband, Steve, Jerry or Andy in any of these posts and it is him. Alex owns the word procrastinator 
Karen Love of Life to Alex T4N2M0 SCC Tonsil, BOT, R lymph nodes Dx March 2010 51yrs. Unresectable. HPV+ve Tx Chemo x 3+1 cycles(cisplatin,docetaxel,5FU)- complete May 31 Chemoradiation (IMRTx35 + weekly cisplatin) Finish Aug 27 Return to work 2 years on 3 years out Aug 27 2013 NED Still underweight
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Joined: Sep 2006 Posts: 8,311 | Well then I own the word stubborn!
David
Age 58 at Dx, HPV16+ SCC, Stage IV BOT+2 nodes, non smoker, casual drinker, exercise nut, Cisplatin x 3 & concurrent IMRT x 35,(70 Gy), no surgery, no Peg, Tx at Moffitt over Aug 06. Jun 07, back to riding my bike 100 miles a wk. Now doing 12 Spin classes and 60 outdoor miles per wk. Nov 13 completed Hilly Century ride for Cancer, 104 miles, 1st Place in my age group. Apr 2014 & 15, Spun for 9 straight hrs to raise $$ for YMCA's Livestrong Program. Certified Spin Instructor Jun 2014.
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Joined: Jul 2009 Posts: 453 | lol David you men drive us women crazy. I think Steve has a share in the word stubborn with you David. In fact I think he actually invented it. He would have to be the most stubborn man I have ever, ever met. Luckily for him I love him.
Yes Karen, I do see many similarities between Alex and Steve. Got to feel sorry for you there because I know what you are up against. Steve's treatment was extremely hard work, for both of us, but so worth it when we got to the end. I think most of Steve's issue was he had no control. So he tried to control the little things like eating and doing his oral care etc. Didn't matter how much it would hurt him in the end, I think in some way just by being able to say no I don't want to, it helped him to feel better about the whole situation. Who knows. All I can say Men, I'll never figure them out.
Wife to Steve 43. DX 5 May 09. T4N2MO SCC tongue, floor of mouth, lymph nodes & jaw bone
No surgery
Teeth removed 06/07/2009
radiation 13/07/2009 x 7wks
chemo 15/07/2009 x 3 Cisplatin
last TX 28/08/2009
25/11/2009 PET-lymph node activity.
08/01/2010 CT Scan-ALL CLEAR
03/03/2010-Peg removed
01/2013 left side of Jaw removed and replaced with pectoral flap.
23/12/2020 scan show lesion in tongue
01/2021 SCC stage 3 base of tongue diagnosed
01/03/2021 chemotherapy started.
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Joined: May 2010 Posts: 638 | and I will take ownership of "bully". I also have the advantage of a high balcony that I can threaten Alex with when the master procastinator has had his head in the sand long enough.
Karen Love of Life to Alex T4N2M0 SCC Tonsil, BOT, R lymph nodes Dx March 2010 51yrs. Unresectable. HPV+ve Tx Chemo x 3+1 cycles(cisplatin,docetaxel,5FU)- complete May 31 Chemoradiation (IMRTx35 + weekly cisplatin) Finish Aug 27 Return to work 2 years on 3 years out Aug 27 2013 NED Still underweight
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Joined: Nov 2009 Posts: 396 | i agree with u there Wendy....MEN--gotta love em....
Teresa
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CG to ANDY. Nasopharyngeal Carcinoma (NPC)
T2N2cMxG4 stage 4. 43 @ dx 8/31/09
tx 9/21/09-11/06/09 cispatin/docetaxel/5-FU X3
PORT 9/9/09, PEG 12/07/09
35 IMRT-1/wk carbo 11/30/09-2/3/10
tx stopped due to complications
IMRT BOOST 3/08-3/12/10
PET 4/12/10 CLEAR!
PEG out 4/14/10
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Joined: Sep 2006 Posts: 8,311 | Well I'm married, 20 yrs, to the most stubborn, pig headed female in the world. She's Cuban born and I think it's genetically instilled in them to be the leader of the family. It' funny though as she will often complain about how stubborn her mother is and how frustrating it is to talk to her and I just laugh.
She always tells me "please talk to Mima, you are the only one she will listen to" and I quietly think to myself, why can't you follow that advice!
David
Age 58 at Dx, HPV16+ SCC, Stage IV BOT+2 nodes, non smoker, casual drinker, exercise nut, Cisplatin x 3 & concurrent IMRT x 35,(70 Gy), no surgery, no Peg, Tx at Moffitt over Aug 06. Jun 07, back to riding my bike 100 miles a wk. Now doing 12 Spin classes and 60 outdoor miles per wk. Nov 13 completed Hilly Century ride for Cancer, 104 miles, 1st Place in my age group. Apr 2014 & 15, Spun for 9 straight hrs to raise $$ for YMCA's Livestrong Program. Certified Spin Instructor Jun 2014.
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Joined: Nov 2006 Posts: 2,671 | Sons can be obstinate, too! I don't know if it has to do wih being a computer programmer with answers to everything else or what, but after much "Mom, I'm an adult now", and lots of obstinate refusals, the thing that turned the tide for us was when I printed out lots of concerned, experienced, compassionate postings from OCF people and just laid them by his bed while he was sleeping. The next day he was a whole lot more receptive.
Anne-Marie
CG to son, Paul (age 33, non-smoker) SCC Stage 2, Surgery 9/21/06, 1/6 tongue Rt.side removed, +48 lymph nodes neck. IMRTx28 completed 12/19/06. CT scan 7/8/10 Cancer-free! ("spot" on lung from scar tissue related to Pneumonia.)
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