| Joined: Dec 2003 Posts: 528 "OCF Down Under" "Above & Beyond" Member (500+ posts) | "OCF Down Under" "Above & Beyond" Member (500+ posts) Joined: Dec 2003 Posts: 528 | Hello Karen
Welcome to the OCF support site. I am sorry that you and your partner are travelling the oral cancer journey but these people will give you so much support and share their own experiences to make your journey easier. I met Gabriele on this site and it turned out that we were both patients at the same head and neck oncology unit. I have found it helpful to talk with her and others going through similar experiences.
Last week I celebrated seven years cancer free, from the end of my radiation treatment. I had stage 4 tonsil cancer with spread to the lymph system. I was treated with surgery and radiation, no chemo. If you or your partner would like to ask me about my experience with radiation you are welcome to call. Gabriele has my number. There is plenty of info here on the main OCF site also.
My advice would be to continue to do as you are ie stop smoking now (even passive smoking is damaging), ask plenty of questions and keep seeking support from OCF members.
Love from Helen
RHTonsil SCC Stage IV tx completed May 03
| | | | Joined: Mar 2002 Posts: 4,912 Likes: 52 OCF Founder Patient Advocate (old timer, 2000 posts) | OCF Founder Patient Advocate (old timer, 2000 posts) Joined: Mar 2002 Posts: 4,912 Likes: 52 | Re the smoking, and I don't want to sound preach so bear with. This has to go, and you've heard that already. But it isn't easy even with that Rx. Please consider that the addictive part of smoking is not the carcinogenic part. As you need to quit NOW, consider a nicotine replacement therapy in conjunction with other ideas. I know you can find over the counter things at the drug store, (patches, gum etc.) but they are weak, they help but maybe not to the extent that you will need. There are Rx level nicotine inhalers, nasal sprays, and even creams. Your doc may need to prescribe something in the NRT world to help get off the habit immediately but you will only get these Rx product from your doc IF you are willing to use them in a fixed, declining intensity manner. Nicotine is associate with a small increase in blood pressure, but it is unlikely to give you cancer.... Ideally you want all of this stuff out of your life. But leaving physical dependency -coupled with habit and emotional attachment- is an easy thing to say and a hard thing to do when it comes to walking away. If you are not non smokers at the end of the month consider staying an addict for a while but not to something in which tobacco is the delivery vehicle. I normally do not say these kinds of things, but clearly if you can continue to smoke while going through all this, the addiction is very strong and may take something more.
Brian, stage 4 oral cancer survivor. OCF Founder and Director. The first responsibility of a leader is to define reality. The last is to say thank you. In between, the leader is a servant. | | | | Joined: Jun 2007 Posts: 5,260 Patient Advocate (old timer, 2000 posts) | Patient Advocate (old timer, 2000 posts) Joined: Jun 2007 Posts: 5,260 | Gabe is right. I have angels on my shoulders constantly and they seem to steer me into the right things to do and protect me. I have been told many times that I must be being saved for something special.
Since posting this. UPMC, Pittsburgh, Oct 2011 until Jan. I averaged about 2 to 3 surgeries a week there. w Can't have jaw made as bone is deteroriating steaily that is left in jaw. Mersa is to blame. Feeding tube . Had trach for 4mos. Got it out April. --- Passed away 5/14/14, will be greatly missed by everyone here
| | | | Joined: May 2010 Posts: 638 "OCF Down Under" "Above & Beyond" Member (500+ posts) | OP "OCF Down Under" "Above & Beyond" Member (500+ posts) Joined: May 2010 Posts: 638 | HI All
thank you, thank you, thank you! It is a sad state of affairs that Alex just took a back seat to the forum. I am sitting here reading the forum and writing my reply rather than sitting in peak hour traffic to go give him a kiss in hospital.
All good news today. We had the ceremonial taking of the first dose of Champix (think it is called Chantix in the US) last night after I went to the pharmacy to fill the scripts. We had a long talk about the need to make us both smoke free and that this is no longer another "try". this is it - we must not fail again. I have been on the Pfizer website and their trials suggest better results with 24 week therapy and even though only 12 weeks is covered on our national health scheme, we are going to do the 24 weeks and pay the difference. Again I say, we can not fail.
Alex comes home tomorrow for a few days before an "extra" round of chemo begins next Wednesday. I don't know because I didn't see the oncologist last night but think they are giving him an extra round of chemo to give his lung time to heal before the nasty chemo/radio round starts. Alex is happy about this, visualises the cancer getting away from him if not being treated so this extra round is reassuring for him (strange man:). But seriously, I get it. I have a friend (bone cancer) who saw the extreme fatigue as a sign the treatment was working and welcomed it. I am sure many survivors would identify with this.
Must go and join that peak hour traffic ... Karen
Karen Love of Life to Alex T4N2M0 SCC Tonsil, BOT, R lymph nodes Dx March 2010 51yrs. Unresectable. HPV+ve Tx Chemo x 3+1 cycles(cisplatin,docetaxel,5FU)- complete May 31 Chemoradiation (IMRTx35 + weekly cisplatin) Finish Aug 27 Return to work 2 years on 3 years out Aug 27 2013 NED Still underweight
| | | | Joined: May 2010 Posts: 638 "OCF Down Under" "Above & Beyond" Member (500+ posts) | OP "OCF Down Under" "Above & Beyond" Member (500+ posts) Joined: May 2010 Posts: 638 | Hi Helen yes, I think we need to talk. your situation seems similar to ours and Alex needs to see the living proof of successful treatment. He isn't in that space yet however (in that typical boy "only weaklings need to talk" space) but will keep you in my armamentarium if that is all right. Karen
Karen Love of Life to Alex T4N2M0 SCC Tonsil, BOT, R lymph nodes Dx March 2010 51yrs. Unresectable. HPV+ve Tx Chemo x 3+1 cycles(cisplatin,docetaxel,5FU)- complete May 31 Chemoradiation (IMRTx35 + weekly cisplatin) Finish Aug 27 Return to work 2 years on 3 years out Aug 27 2013 NED Still underweight
| | | | Joined: Aug 2007 Posts: 1,301 "OCF Down Under" Patient Advocate (1000+ posts) | "OCF Down Under" Patient Advocate (1000+ posts) Joined: Aug 2007 Posts: 1,301 | A big thank you to all my friends for the support and advice you have given Karen. I knew you would not let me down A small bit of history�Karen and I had lunch together most working days in the 90�s at a caf� close to work with a big ashtray between us..back in the days when I, like a lot here gave up just before tx and I know just having the 1 now would be deadly (in more ways than one). Over 3 � years non smoker now. On Friday we talked about how at functions the smokers are now outside and the others inside. I have only met Alex briefly at our last Christmas Party and due to the size of our company can go for weeks without seeing Karen. We should change that and you know I will help in any way that I can. No traffic for me today as I am home with a head cold and will talk to you later today. Love Gabriele
History Leukoplakia bx 8/2006 SCC floor mouth T3N0M0- Verrucous Carcinoma. 14 hour 0p SCC-Right ND/excision/marginal mandibulectomy 9/2006, 4 teeth removed, flap from wrist, trach-ng 6 days- no chemo/rad. 6 ops and debulking (flap/tongue join) + bx's 2006-2012. bx Jan 2012 Hyperkeratosis-Epithelial Dysplasia 24cm GIST tumour removed 8/2013. Indefinite Oral Chemo.
1/31/16 passed away peacefully surrounded by family
| | | | Joined: Sep 2009 Posts: 618 "Above & Beyond" Member (500+ posts) | "Above & Beyond" Member (500+ posts) Joined: Sep 2009 Posts: 618 | One other tip on quitting the smoking. I did the patch and then got the lozenges. The lozenges will give you an immediate burst of nicotine (each lozenge is 4 mg or two cigarettes worth).
The gum does not deliver as fast as the lozenge. So it was the Chantix, patch and then I would grab the lozenges when the urge really hit. I went from 2 packs a day down to 10 cigarettes a day over the first two weeks on Chantix and then quite the smokes and went to the patches and lozenges. It only took three weeks to move off the patches and lozenges and be nicotine free.
Kelly Male 48, SCC (Soft Palet) Rt., Stage 1, T3n0m0, Dx, 8-09, Start IMRT 35 9-2-09 end 10-21-09 04-20-10 NED 8-11 recurrence, node rt. neck N2b 10-11 33 IMRT w/chemo wkly 3-12-12 PET - residual cancer 4-12 5 treatments with Cyberknife & Erbitux 6-19-12 Pet scan CLEAR 12-3-12 PET - CLEAR
| | | | Joined: Jun 2007 Posts: 5,260 Patient Advocate (old timer, 2000 posts) | Patient Advocate (old timer, 2000 posts) Joined: Jun 2007 Posts: 5,260 | The only thing I got that stopped me dead was being told OC. LOL
Since posting this. UPMC, Pittsburgh, Oct 2011 until Jan. I averaged about 2 to 3 surgeries a week there. w Can't have jaw made as bone is deteroriating steaily that is left in jaw. Mersa is to blame. Feeding tube . Had trach for 4mos. Got it out April. --- Passed away 5/14/14, will be greatly missed by everyone here
| | | | Joined: Aug 2007 Posts: 1,301 "OCF Down Under" Patient Advocate (1000+ posts) | "OCF Down Under" Patient Advocate (1000+ posts) Joined: Aug 2007 Posts: 1,301 | Me too Jim I like the sound of the Quit Keeper Software program you mentioned Kelly. We have just had a huge price increase here (do not even know that they cost now). I must have saved a small fortune over the last few years but more important are the health benefits.
History Leukoplakia bx 8/2006 SCC floor mouth T3N0M0- Verrucous Carcinoma. 14 hour 0p SCC-Right ND/excision/marginal mandibulectomy 9/2006, 4 teeth removed, flap from wrist, trach-ng 6 days- no chemo/rad. 6 ops and debulking (flap/tongue join) + bx's 2006-2012. bx Jan 2012 Hyperkeratosis-Epithelial Dysplasia 24cm GIST tumour removed 8/2013. Indefinite Oral Chemo.
1/31/16 passed away peacefully surrounded by family
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