Didier, I wish you could reread your post from a totally unbiased, objective viewpoint. The answers to your questions are there already. It seems to me that the bottom line is: Do you want to live YOUR life or hers? Her life is HER responsibility unless her mental faculities are gone. Tough decision-yes- but it sounds like you have given it your best shot. You can't make her well. Hope this isn't too harsh, I don't mean it that way. Amy