Wow! thanks Nelie, Helen, Anita and Denise for your help!! We'll definitely try all of the suggestions to see if something works. I know the medical team told us about the side effects but somehow they didn't really paint a grim enough picture. Maybe they did and I just didn't hear them.

all my gratitude,
Mary

Caregiver for John SCC left tonsil Stage III/IV dx Sept 05, tx started Oct 21/05 -IMRT 35, cisplatin 3 X 100mg/m2;completed Dec08/05.