Dear Sharlee,oh how familiar that all sounds and how many times over the the last 15 years have i participated in similar scenarios, and if you know he cant be emotionally supportive dont ask him to be, because the you will feel endlesly let down,and you have enough to cope with.Find a buddy who you can call or e-mail,get a counsellor or a cancer nurse let him see he isnt the be all and end all.But this is about you not him and any women of 35 with 5 children certainly has not done nothing with their life,so just stand up to him because he is nothing but a bully and bullies are notorious cowards.