My question is morbid, but I feel the need to know.....Alisa and Tonya....you both have lost loved ones at a young age from oral cancer. My husband is 36 and was diagnosed with stage 4 tonsil cancer in Sept., I was 8 months pregnant with our first baby. I am very afraid of recurrence, etc. I want him to see Evan grow up and we get so upset when we talk of the future. It's always "this may be the last....I know that sounds aweful, but I guess it's human nature for him to feel that way. Not all times are sorrowful however, we laugh and goof off a great deal as well.

I guess my question is HOW did your loved ones ultimately succumb to this dreadful disease? I realize everyone is different, but my husband is so young and has never smoked. Your loved ones were as well. Is there any advice you can give me? Things to look out for? We have a follow-up June 25 and no mention of scans of any sort. I'm so uptight and worried all the time! Scared is more like it.

I wish you both the very best. My heart goes out to you and your families.

Ann