Hello dryfly1,

Welcome to the club nobody wants to join!!! Glad you found us though. All of have had a good cry over this whole process. We are human beings with emotions. The trick is to stay on the upbeat and when feeling down post your concerns. It helps to get some feedback from those of us that have traveled the path ahead of you. Educating yourself about oral cancer will empower you to ask the right questions at the appointments. Write them down ahead of time, you never remember all at the doctors.

What type of Chemo & radiation is he going to have? What did they stage his cancer at?
Is he being treated at major comprensive cancer center? If not a second opinion at one would be in order. You want someone who sees alot of what he has. It is a most unforgiving diaease. Throw everything at it the first time.
Many of us were where he is now and survived. He can to. Remember to keep a positive attitude and take one day at a time. Measure his progress in weeks not days. There is light at the end of the tunnel and I hope you both get there soon.

Best Wishes, Danny Boy