Dear EB- no one wants to hear the words "palliative treatment or hospice". But if that is the only alternative, then at the very least it will give you all time to get your life organized toward dealing with that scenerio. Have you gotten a 2nd opinion from a major Cancer Center? You don't say where he has been treated other than at the VA and by a Rad\Onc. I know you are feeling like you have been hit by a train and I am so sorry. Amy in the Ozarks