Dear Efab AND Hubby- You gotta stop and take some deep breaths here. And remember that everyone on this site has personal experience in what is happening to you and will help you along the way. #1. Please stop projecting to what might happen in the future because you can't control that. #2. Learn as much as you can about his proposed immediate treatment so you can ask intelligent questions and understand the answers. #3. Get your life organized so that you can be there during the process and fully understand what is going on to the best of your ability.As to this site upsetting your husband, here's a hint for you. When you find a post or a thread that is pertinant to what is happening with him in the present tense- print it and leave it lying around so he can pick it up and read it at his whim. You can also ask him if there is something he might want more info on and search that question and print it for him. My husband wouldn't touch a computer, but I printed 100's of pages of OCF material for him to read and he did at his own pace.Remember- initial diagnosis is panic time- then you switch gears to win the battle. Amy in the Ozarks