Liz,

You are his caregiver and that is not an easy task. You will experience as much pain, frustration and mental anguish as he will, only in different ways. Don't ever underestimate the value you bring to this fight. He wouldn't stand a chance without you. To this day I credit my wife as saving my life several times during the course of my Tx. You need to take care of yourself as well. He his not the only victim of this cancer, but he is the only one receiving treatment. You also will need some "treatment" mostly in the mental arena. Make time for yourself. Scream at someone occasionally (not him) like us. Just remember he needs you now more than ever, even if he won't admit it now.

There is another Forum called Caregiver/C0-Survivor where you can ask those experts how to deal with all your upcomming issues. This is a great site for all.

David

Age 58 at Dx, HPV16+ SCC, Stage IV BOT+2 nodes, non smoker, casual drinker, exercise nut, Cisplatin x 3 & concurrent IMRT x 35,(70 Gy), no surgery, no Peg, Tx at Moffitt over Aug 06. Jun 07, back to riding my bike 100 miles a wk. Now doing 12 Spin classes and 60 outdoor miles per wk. Nov 13 completed Hilly Century ride for Cancer, 104 miles, 1st Place in my age group. Apr 2014 & 15, Spun for 9 straight hrs to raise $$ for YMCA's Livestrong Program. Certified Spin Instructor Jun 2014.