Hi Jennifer,

Yes it's normal. People go through stages of grief when they are experiencing health crisis and taking it out on the people we are closest too is a coping mechanism. As Amy says we've all been there. Be patient with her, tell her that you love her and will stand by her no matter what. It's an emotional roller coaster. You can also expect denial, fear/anxiety and depression. Hopefully as we get to experience our emotions we can move into acceptance. The important message to your Mom is that her family will not abandon her and that you will all face whatever is ahead together.

Make sure that you have opportunities to vent your own feelings and yes it's okay to let her know that you are also hurting and having difficulty with the situation. Communication is hard, but stuffing our feelings only makes it worse. Remember the good things and bring them up to your Mom.

Regards JoAnne