Hi everyone,

In a nutshell, I found this wonderful site on the internet.

My husband is 42 yo and a heavy 3 pack a day smoker and an alcoholic for the past 20 years.

He was diagnosed with squamous cell cancer on the floor of his mouth in 2000 and had surgery to remove the cancer.

It recurred in 2003 same area, and he had the same surgical procedure to remove it.

It has now come back again (3rd recurrence) same place more aggressive and has infiltrated his gums, lower jaw bone, and also both sides of his neck lymph nodes.

The Dr staged him at a 4. He had a CT and PET and they found *something* on his lung. They are not sure what, said may be an *old* injury.

This attitude is not good enough for me. I feel they should be more concerned with that spot, especially after metastasis to his nodes has occured. They also told him he has emphysema.

They want to remove the tumor, the jaw area and do a radical disection.

Now the cancer surgeon has said that he will not need a feeding tube. Well problem is he weighs 130 pounds now, and is not eating due to severity of the pain.

I am looking for some honest answers and can't seem to find any, anywhere.

I want to know if given his condition if putting him thru surgery, radiation and chemo is going to do any good. The Dr said that once cancer gets into lymph nodes his prognosis is not good. So why are they doing this to him?

He also has pancreatic disease and a fatty liver.

He continues to drink and smoke and has to see his oncologist next week. He said that the chemo dr and radiologist will be meeting with the oncologist to discuss his treatment.

I just feel left out of the loop, and angry that he is going to have to go thru all of this if his chance at survival is poor. He is so thin now and weak, what will he be like after all this?

Any help anyone can offer is very appreciated.

Ty.