Good morning,

I've never joined a forum before and I do feel rather silly, seeking help from total strangers, but here goes....

My father-inlaw was recently diagnosed with SCC, stage 4, at the base of the tongue. I can handle and deal with this as far as he is concerned, my issues are with helping my husband, his son, and our children deal with what lies ahead of us all.

I don't know how to do this....I don't know how to be there for my husband on one level, dealing with the truth, and keepings things light and happy for the children at the same time. I'm having a hard time knowing when to laugh and when to cry, when I should be strong and when I can feel my own pain.

I thought some of you might be able to recommend a few books to help guide me through this process. I don't know where to start, or how.

The Daughter-inlaw