Christine's advice about a cancer center is right on the money. Where are you in VA? I see several places on a gvt. website in VA, and I'm sure that if you are near DC there will be more there.
Massey Cancer Center, Virginia Commonwealth University, Richmond, Virginia, Cancer Center Gordon D. Ginder, M.D. Director, Richmond, New Patients: (804) 828-5116

University of Virginia Cancer Center, Charlottesville, Virginia, Cancer Center Thomas P. Loughran Jr., M.D. Main: (434) 924-3627 Toll Free: 1-800-223-9173

It is important to find doctors specializing in oral cancer since it hits such a small percent of people. Both tobacco and alcohol use are big problems (unless the cancer is HPV related).

Just because he is under attack does not mean the battle is lost, it only means that the battle has begun.