Kaye, this is a very scary time for you and I am so glad you have come here.

It is my understanding that new delivery systems allow much less radiation to be absolutely pinpointed. When I was radiated 4 years ago, I discussed lifetime maximum rad with the doc, who said that I was not necessarily procluded from having more if necessary. And frankly, I would rather give radiation a chance, than leave seven areas untreated. It will be difficult, but one day at a time is a better way to look at it. If he needs a PEG tube, you can read all about that here. For a few people, that has caused some problems, but for many of us it was just a very handy lifeline and not a big deal.

If you can go with your dad when he talks to his doctors, that will be a big help as it is sometimes hard for patients to remember all that is said. Take notes and ask questions. And I want to caution you that while researching is good, too much information can be overwhelming. Avoid statistics, as they are notoriously misleading and can truly give you a false picture.

I know that your involvement will be a big help to both your mom and dad. You may have to be the really strong one for a while. Being younger, you are better able to be a patient advocate, which your dad will need.

Come back with any quetions as the treatment progresses, or just to vent. You can be sure there is always someone here who knows exactly what you are feeling or dealing with.