Hello Nancy. Hope you had a good consultation with the oncologist. I know what you mean about pity party but heck, it's hard going through tongue cancer and radiation. It's hard to believe how long it takes to heal. Two years after rads I feel pretty normal apart from the damage done by surgery (cut nerve). I also had a swollen parotid gland a little while after treatment. It went down pretty quickly by itself but was a mystery to me.

Yes, it takes a while to heal. I don't know about scars except that I have a lot of them. I think it pays to check with your doctor if you notice any changes that worry you. It's better to over-ask than under-ask.

Best wishes