I had this "top-up" surgery to get a clear margin in one particular area (inside my cheek). I was in hospital for four days afterward so it was nowhere near as bad as the main surgery. It got to me though. I was in tears after surgery and had a major meltdown later. It was as if I'd been through enough and this was twisting the knife in.

I empathise greatly with you, your father and your wider family. It's good the docs are being fussy about margins though and I hope and pray they are clear this time.

Cancer is often a rollercoaster. People need help to deal with it.

Love
Maureen