AnaD - I especially like your first paragraph. Sometimes we do have to use everything at our means to get our survivors moving forward no matter how small the steps. And Stacey - There was a day when I was so frustrated I exploded with: "Look, Paul - I am doing everything I possibly can to help you survive and get better - but I just CAN'T do it alone! - you have GOT to help me out a little here!!" I was ready to cry but I think he listened and I think it put some of the responsibility for his survival on him which gave him a measure of control. Stay with us Stacey and let us know how you both are doing.