Oh no. My heart feels so sad to hear your news. It is shitty.
Are you able to phone the Oncologist who Ron saw. You need to discuss this with him so that you have a clear understanding of the process and all available options.
You say 'He will be consulting with other doctors". Push him to do this. Only then can you make an informed decision on whether or not to persue further treatment options.
Quality of life is important , I know.
I just wish you and Ron all the best. Never give up
Hugs and love to you both,
Tammy

Caregiver/advocate to Husband Kris age 59@ diagnosis
DX Dec '10 SCC BOT T4aN2bM0 HPV+ve.Cisplatin x3 35 IMRT.
PET 6/11 clear.
R) level 2-4 neck dissection 8/1/11 to remove residual node - necrotic with NED
Feb '12 Ca back.. 3/8/12 total glossectomy/laryngectomy/bilat neck dissection/partial pharyngectomy etc. clear margins. All nodes negative for disease. PEG in.
March 2017 - 5 years disease free. Woohoo!