Hi my name is Sue and we live in upstate NY...My oldest son 20 at the time had aggressive NHL and required a bone marrow transplant 4 years ago...that has been an ongoing roller coaster. Yesterday, my youngest son went to the dentist for a routine cleaning and she told him he had a small black spot on a gum and a white spot in his cheek and he needed to go see an oral surgeon because it could be cancerous....Gees, to tell a family that has been through hell and back from one son with cancer that their other son may have something...is very scary. I have checked on symptoms and such and extensively questioned him (which he became aggitated with me about), he appears to have no other symptoms other than these two small barely visible spots....He is 23 and not quite the age, however, if we learned anything, cancer hits all ages. Everyone I voice concern to, said who doesn't have white spots somewhere in their mouth....that may be true but the white spot and the black are a concern. This son has a mild form of asperger's and he is always uptight and easily frustrated anyways, his coping skills are not the greatest, I worry about that too. My oldest son was very easy going and laid back with a great sense of humor and I think that helped him through...but I remember so well that even he had issues with the emotional side of cancer. I worry this son could not handle it...We have immediately scheduled an appointment with an oral surgeon for Monday and I will wonder all weekend what he has to say. My oldest son's transplant doctor would say "the issue is in the tissue"...I know that well, but is it possible he takes one look and says you have nothing to worry about? I am quite aware that I could be overreacting, but in light of past history, can you blame me? Until my son had cancer we had zilch for family history as far back as anyone can remember on either side of the tree...I wonder did we once own and live in a house on a toxic waste dump? I know from experience that the most knowledgeable people I could talk to right now, is all of you, as I know you have a wealth of insight and information I could never get from any professional. Can anyone calm my ever growing fears?

Thanks for listening...
Sue