paula im extremely saddened for you to hear about his results. life is just totally unfair at times...i think to cancer patients and caregivers, it can feel like ALL of the time for us. its okay to cry and stay under the covers...you must be so exhausted mentally and physically.
you will both make the right decision together when the time comes. try to take care of yourself in the process

my mom, age 59.

12/08 surgery & 33x rad
4/09 recurrence
5/09 surgery & 35x rad
12/09 recurrence
1/10 surgery. peg tube, trach, fibula free flap
6/10 recurrence. double chemo treatments.
8/10/10 finally at peace in heaven