Im stuck. How do you really choose where to go for treatment? Im speaking of CCC's (a term Ive learned here in 1 day- thanks!). We're obviously thinking of the most well known; houston, baltimore, new york and here in NC we have DUKE (DCCC). Distance isnt an issue however if we chose out of state we'd like somewhere that offered reasonable lodging expenses. I really dont know how we'd afford to visit her in NY. If we go to Duke, it's only an hour away.
I feel like the place we choose will decide her future. What if we pick to stay in NC and she doesnt make it? frown
Then we will feel like maybe it would have worked had we gone somewhere else.

I know these things probably run through everyones head but I just don't know how to rationalize this. Mom is okay with going to Duke. I just want to feel GOOD about going there too - not because it's convenient

As a reference, we are now dealing with her 4 recurrence of SCC in 2 years

my mom, age 59.

12/08 surgery & 33x rad
4/09 recurrence
5/09 surgery & 35x rad
12/09 recurrence
1/10 surgery. peg tube, trach, fibula free flap
6/10 recurrence. double chemo treatments.
8/10/10 finally at peace in heaven